"mistakes can be forgiven but not the blunders"
i agree with this. mistakes are done once, twice, thrice. it is very hard to tolerate mistakes . normal human beings can tolerate three mistakes repeatedly by same person. but more and same mistakes by same person . "hard to tolerate"
it is rightly said that"if you won't do any mistakes, you won't discover anything new"
yes its true. but here mistakes refer to the positive mistakes. o.k i can make you understand this by example
suppose there is one person who do same mistakes again and again. his/her mistakes are ignored once, twice and thrice.but how long the next person will tolerate. this was example of"silly" mistakes( in other words i must say "BLUNDERS")
second example shows a person who take advantage of each and every opportunity. he/she does work and do mistake in the work.(i don't call it mistake because at-least he/she tried it)and the mistake he/she performed once will be rectified and next time he/she won't do any mistake
so, now you decide which one is better. ya, undoubtedly second one!
so, now we get that the second person is walking well. yes, on right path!
but the first one!
first one is lost on its way. thinking and writing on the "destination? of difficult roads!".. where does first person stand? well, NOWHERE!
ok, lets go deeper. lets see the problems associated with person 1 and lets try to understand and sort it out
what i get about condition of person 1 is that:-
1. his/her path is not WRONG.maybe the path is difficult( path can't be changed because once one gets back. it states that person is out of game-ya, game of life) what more i get is that the path may not be so difficult .the thinking of person decides the complexity of path .anyhow, lets conclude the path is difficult
2.person doing mistakes repeatedly might be very suspicious, insecure, emotional or easily effected by others nature/behavior. this may make him/her irritated or confused and he/she does mistakes unknowingly
3. maybe the person is suffering from any mental problem/disease/ tension etc. this maybe preventing him/her from concentrating and focusing and generally it may lead in repeating mistakes
4.may be the person is very clever. he/she just don't care anything and don't look upon what happens in surroundings. knowingly he/she does mistakes. (here cleverness that person posses is in reality its biggest demerit!)
5. may be the person is very innocent. he/she may not be able to decide whats wrong or right. in its state of confusion, suspicion the person may do all things in hotch-pocth manner which eventually result in mistakes
6.lastly, maybe the person is shy/silly. well, i am writing both together because at one point they meet. shyness is when you cant express. and silliness is when even after expressing you can't do. both result in mistakes. when you don't express next person don't know. and when you express and don't do next person get irritated that why you don't do!
after these six points, i get an idea that any person don't want to do mistakes KNOWINGLY!
but its also the fact that the person next has also limits of tolerance. how much one can tolerate? if i am asked to tolerate mistakes by persons i would reach to my extreme temper at third mistake by person . but there are some people who have power to tolerate more than"three" mistakes! but more than that they also lose their patience and tolerance.but now the point here comes is despite of the fact that we can't tolerate more how "these persons can be improved"
well, you must be thinking of "CHANCE" some of you thinking about"PUNISHMENT" and others must be thinking "LEAVE IT. ITS OUT OF MY CONTROL"
what is think is that first one is the best. yes, CHANCE! because PUNISHMENT wont do anything. it would just result in degradation of the matter. and others who say"LEAVE IT.ITS OUT OF MY CONTROL" don't go good with quote that" nothing is impossible"!
o.k you must be thinking how many chances we can give? isn't it?
yes, i am also thinking this. how much chances we can give to a person whom we know will do mistake.?
but we can also not ignore the fact that in order to improve the "mistakable person" we can do something. to a next level you may think"we should do something" and finally, "we must do something"!
and we'll be able to do something for such type of "silly" mistake doing persons!( yes, silly is good word to describe !)
o.k now finally what can we do for such persons
1. whenever such person does mistake neither ignore the mistake nor ignore the person.when you ignore the person it seems that you are frustrated from the person and you gave up. the person thinks that he/she is not capable of doing anything . ignoring will just create more problems nothing else the thing which you can do is improve the mistake of the person and ask the person to repeatedly do same work in which he/she did mistake. ultimately, one time it will result in perfection!
2. if same mistakes are repeated again and again listen to person, his/her problems. mentally, mold the person in such a way that he/she believes in him/herself that he/she has capacity and can do it. even after he/ she does mistake don't lose your temper just tell the person openly that he/she had done a mistake . yes, in rare cases you should prefer punishment( not the harsh one! i am talking about some other sort of punishment). the punishment should be such where person gets trapped in same work from where he/she runs! this will result in removing shyness in the person!
3. lastly, please never give up. you'll win one day. your power should be like this that mistakes get afraid from you and run away! so, just have courage and never give up!
ya, to improve such persons is really difficult task but if we feel we are strong and experienced we must do it( if you just want to try i 'll suggest you not to do. because leaving the person in between will result in degradation of the matter into worst!)
so, dear friends how many of you think you can do this?and,
how many of you think you should do this? and,
finally,how many of you think" you must help such persons?
i think that i should help such persons but i am not in that condition. because its rightly said"charity begins at home"!
yes, firstly i need to take to me out of category 1( ya, i too do mistakes again n again)persons and then i'll readily help everyone to cure this "mistake disease"!
yes, if you don't want to please don't ! its your wish. but before this just think that your help can save precious life, time, opportunities of one person. and on earth even a small needle matters and of-course there is a value of a person. secondly, god will also be happy on your good deeds towards next person!
so help others and be happy!
(but this is also the fact that person whom you are helping must help himself/herself because god help those who help themselves. its o.k if the person don't help him/herself, you can teach him/her this also)
good luck
have a cheerful day
jass (:
(O.K now you must be wondering about title well its MBP- mistakes, blunder and perfection)
i agree with this. mistakes are done once, twice, thrice. it is very hard to tolerate mistakes . normal human beings can tolerate three mistakes repeatedly by same person. but more and same mistakes by same person . "hard to tolerate"
it is rightly said that"if you won't do any mistakes, you won't discover anything new"
yes its true. but here mistakes refer to the positive mistakes. o.k i can make you understand this by example
suppose there is one person who do same mistakes again and again. his/her mistakes are ignored once, twice and thrice.but how long the next person will tolerate. this was example of"silly" mistakes( in other words i must say "BLUNDERS")
second example shows a person who take advantage of each and every opportunity. he/she does work and do mistake in the work.(i don't call it mistake because at-least he/she tried it)and the mistake he/she performed once will be rectified and next time he/she won't do any mistake
so, now you decide which one is better. ya, undoubtedly second one!
so, now we get that the second person is walking well. yes, on right path!
but the first one!
first one is lost on its way. thinking and writing on the "destination? of difficult roads!".. where does first person stand? well, NOWHERE!
ok, lets go deeper. lets see the problems associated with person 1 and lets try to understand and sort it out
what i get about condition of person 1 is that:-
1. his/her path is not WRONG.maybe the path is difficult( path can't be changed because once one gets back. it states that person is out of game-ya, game of life) what more i get is that the path may not be so difficult .the thinking of person decides the complexity of path .anyhow, lets conclude the path is difficult
2.person doing mistakes repeatedly might be very suspicious, insecure, emotional or easily effected by others nature/behavior. this may make him/her irritated or confused and he/she does mistakes unknowingly
3. maybe the person is suffering from any mental problem/disease/ tension etc. this maybe preventing him/her from concentrating and focusing and generally it may lead in repeating mistakes
4.may be the person is very clever. he/she just don't care anything and don't look upon what happens in surroundings. knowingly he/she does mistakes. (here cleverness that person posses is in reality its biggest demerit!)
5. may be the person is very innocent. he/she may not be able to decide whats wrong or right. in its state of confusion, suspicion the person may do all things in hotch-pocth manner which eventually result in mistakes
6.lastly, maybe the person is shy/silly. well, i am writing both together because at one point they meet. shyness is when you cant express. and silliness is when even after expressing you can't do. both result in mistakes. when you don't express next person don't know. and when you express and don't do next person get irritated that why you don't do!
after these six points, i get an idea that any person don't want to do mistakes KNOWINGLY!
but its also the fact that the person next has also limits of tolerance. how much one can tolerate? if i am asked to tolerate mistakes by persons i would reach to my extreme temper at third mistake by person . but there are some people who have power to tolerate more than"three" mistakes! but more than that they also lose their patience and tolerance.but now the point here comes is despite of the fact that we can't tolerate more how "these persons can be improved"
well, you must be thinking of "CHANCE" some of you thinking about"PUNISHMENT" and others must be thinking "LEAVE IT. ITS OUT OF MY CONTROL"
what is think is that first one is the best. yes, CHANCE! because PUNISHMENT wont do anything. it would just result in degradation of the matter. and others who say"LEAVE IT.ITS OUT OF MY CONTROL" don't go good with quote that" nothing is impossible"!
o.k you must be thinking how many chances we can give? isn't it?
yes, i am also thinking this. how much chances we can give to a person whom we know will do mistake.?
but we can also not ignore the fact that in order to improve the "mistakable person" we can do something. to a next level you may think"we should do something" and finally, "we must do something"!
and we'll be able to do something for such type of "silly" mistake doing persons!( yes, silly is good word to describe !)
o.k now finally what can we do for such persons
1. whenever such person does mistake neither ignore the mistake nor ignore the person.when you ignore the person it seems that you are frustrated from the person and you gave up. the person thinks that he/she is not capable of doing anything . ignoring will just create more problems nothing else the thing which you can do is improve the mistake of the person and ask the person to repeatedly do same work in which he/she did mistake. ultimately, one time it will result in perfection!
2. if same mistakes are repeated again and again listen to person, his/her problems. mentally, mold the person in such a way that he/she believes in him/herself that he/she has capacity and can do it. even after he/ she does mistake don't lose your temper just tell the person openly that he/she had done a mistake . yes, in rare cases you should prefer punishment( not the harsh one! i am talking about some other sort of punishment). the punishment should be such where person gets trapped in same work from where he/she runs! this will result in removing shyness in the person!
3. lastly, please never give up. you'll win one day. your power should be like this that mistakes get afraid from you and run away! so, just have courage and never give up!
ya, to improve such persons is really difficult task but if we feel we are strong and experienced we must do it( if you just want to try i 'll suggest you not to do. because leaving the person in between will result in degradation of the matter into worst!)
so, dear friends how many of you think you can do this?and,
how many of you think you should do this? and,
finally,how many of you think" you must help such persons?
i think that i should help such persons but i am not in that condition. because its rightly said"charity begins at home"!
yes, firstly i need to take to me out of category 1( ya, i too do mistakes again n again)persons and then i'll readily help everyone to cure this "mistake disease"!
yes, if you don't want to please don't ! its your wish. but before this just think that your help can save precious life, time, opportunities of one person. and on earth even a small needle matters and of-course there is a value of a person. secondly, god will also be happy on your good deeds towards next person!
so help others and be happy!
(but this is also the fact that person whom you are helping must help himself/herself because god help those who help themselves. its o.k if the person don't help him/herself, you can teach him/her this also)
good luck
have a cheerful day
jass (:
(O.K now you must be wondering about title well its MBP- mistakes, blunder and perfection)
MBP is My Biggest Problem.
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